There is also no difference in the acceptance of lashon hara as to whether he heard it from others or from his father, his mother, or the members of his household. More than this, we find (Tanna d'bei Eliyahu 28) that if a man saw his father and mother speaking "superfluous words," such as lashon hara and the like, aside from being exhorted not to accept their words, he is exhorted to prevent them from speaking these words. And if he remains silent, both he and they are greatly punished. And it is stated in Shabbath 54b that one who should protest against the men of his household [but does not] is "caught" [for punishment] in time to come for the men of his household. That is why a man should always be accustomed in his house to reprove for these things (but only gently, and to present before them the greatness of the punishment for this in time to come, and the greatness of the reward for one who keeps himself from this.) And he should, especially, always take heed of himself, that the members of his household never hear from his mouth anything demeaning against his friend. For if he himself transgresses this, aside from the issur itself, he himself becomes a great obstruction. For he will never again have a justification for reproving them for this. And, for the most part, the conduct of the members of the household in such things is patterned after the conduct of the head of the household himself. Therefore, he himself must take great care in this, and it shall go well for him in this [world] and the next.
גַּם אֵין חִלּוּק בְּאִסוּר קַבָּלַת לָשׁוֹן הָרָע, בֵּין אִם הוּא שׁוֹמֵעַ מֵאֲנָשִׁים אֲחֵרִים אוֹ מֵאָבִיו וְאִמּוֹ וְאַנְשֵׁי בֵּיתוֹ. וְיוֹתֵר מִזֶּה (כז) מָצִינוּ בְּתָנָא דְּבֵי אֵלִיָּהוּ פֶּרֶק כ"א, שֶׁאִם רוֹאֶה אָדָם לְאָבִיו וּלְאִמּוֹ, שֶׁמְּדַבְּרִים דְּבָרִים יְתֵרִים, כְּגוֹן, לָשׁוֹן הָרָע וְכַדּוֹמֶה, לְבַד שֶׁמֻּזְהָר שֶׁלֹּא לְקַבֵּל דִּבְרֵיהֶם, אֶלָּא הוּא צָרִיךְ גַּם כֵּן לִמְנֹעַ אותם מזה, (ויזהר שיהיה זה, בדרך כבוד, וכמו שכתבתי בבאר מים חיים). וְאִם הֶחֱרִישׁ לָהֶם, נְעֱנָשׁ הוּא וְהֵם עֲבוּר זֶה בְּעֹנְשׁ גָּדוֹל. וְאָמְרִינַן בְּמַסֶכֶת שַׁבָּת {דף נ"ד:}, כִּי מִי שֶׁיֵּשׁ לוֹ לִמְחוֹת בְּאַנְשֵׁי בֵּיתוֹ, נִתְפָּס לֶעָתִיד לָבוֹא עַל אַנְשֵׁי בֵּיתוֹ, עַל כֵּן יִהְיֶה אָדָם רָגִיל תָּמִיד בְּבֵיתוֹ לְהוֹכִיחַ בְּעִנְיָנִים אֵלּוּ, וְרַק בְּלָשׁוֹן רַכָּה, וּלְהַצִּיעַ לִפְנִיהֶם אֶת גֹּדֶל הָעֹנְשׁ שֶׁיִּהְיֶה עֲבוּר זֶה לֶעָתִיד לָבוֹא וְגֹדֶל הַשָּׂכָר, לְמִי שֶׁנִּזְהָר מִזֶּה. וּבְיוֹתֵר יִזָּהֵר בְּעַצְמוֹ לְעוֹלָם, שֶׁלֹּא יִשְׁמְעוּ אַנְשֵׁי הַבַּיִת מִפִּיו שׁוּם דִּבְרֵי גְּנַאי עַל חֲבֵרוֹ, כִּי אִם הוּא בְּעַצְמוֹ יַעֲבֹר עַל זֶה, לְבַד הָאִסוּר בְּעַצְמּוֹ, הוּא גַּם כֵּן קִלְקוּל גָּדוֹל לְעִנְיָן זֶה, כִּי שׁוּב לֹא יִהְיֶה לוֹ שׁוּם פִּתְחוֹן פֶּה לִמְנֹעַ אוֹתָם מִזֶּה. וְעַל פִּי הָרֹב תְּלוּיָה הַנְהָגַת אַנְשֵׁי הַבַּיִת בְּעִנְיָנִים כָּאֵלּוּ אַחַר הַנְהָגַת בַּעַל הַבַּיִת בְּעַצְּמוֹ, עַל כֵּן צָּרִיךְ בְּעַצְּמוֹ לִזָּהֵר בָּזֶה עַד מְאֹד, וְיִהְיֶה טוֹב לוֹ בַּזֶּה וּבַבָּא.
There is also no difference in the acceptance of lashon hara as to whether he heard it from others or from his father, his mother, or the members of his household. More than this, we find (Tanna d'bei Eliyahu 28) that if a man saw his father and mother speaking "superfluous words," such as lashon hara and the like, aside from being exhorted not to accept their words, he is exhorted to prevent them from speaking these words. And if he remains silent, both he and they are greatly punished. And it is stated in Shabbath 54b that one who should protest against the men of his household [but does not] is "caught" [for punishment] in time to come for the men of his household. That is why a man should always be accustomed in his house to reprove for these things (but only gently, and to present before them the greatness of the punishment for this in time to come, and the greatness of the reward for one who keeps himself from this.) And he should, especially, always take heed of himself, that the members of his household never hear from his mouth anything demeaning against his friend. For if he himself transgresses this, aside from the issur itself, he himself becomes a great obstruction. For he will never again have a justification for reproving them for this. And, for the most part, the conduct of the members of the household in such things is patterned after the conduct of the head of the household himself. Therefore, he himself must take great care in this, and it shall go well for him in this [world] and the next.